Happy Couples Follow These 2 Rules for Phone Use

In addition to hosting The Sean Show on B105.7, I’m also a therapist at Evolve Therapy in Greenwood, IN.

Happy couples are careful with their phone use in these 2 ways:

I tell couples I work with that texting is only to be used for love notes and logistics.  “Can you pick up the dry cleaning on your way home?” Or… “Love you, just thinking about you, and can’t wait to be back home with you tonight.” – you know, the sort of sweet texts you may have sent more often in the beginning.  Under no circumstances do happy couples address issues via text.  If it’s something serious, they pick up the phone or wait until they can be together in person.

Secondly, happy couples have boundaries with their smartphone use in general.  The smart phone is a venerable distraction to good listening, but happy couples don’t let it get in the way.  They put the phone down when interacting with their partner.  There are tons of things and people competing for your attention.  Don’t make your partner be one of them.

Happy couples also have boundaries about when and how often they use their smart phone.  Don’t be the couple who goes out to dinner and has their phones out the entire time.  And make sure you have time at home where it’s just the two of you – no one on the phone you’re texting, no content creator on TikTok — just the two of you.  The rule we use at our house is largely no phone use during or after dinner.  That’s our time!

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