Couples In Happy Relationships Always Do This Together

Couples who are in a happy and healthy relationship create shared routines and shared meaning. 

Maybe you watch the same show together.  Maybe you even read the same book together.  Things like that give you something to talk about with one another, other than the boring recap of each other’s day.  How’s your day doing?  How was your day?  The most boring, thoughtless questions.  I hate them.  First of all, if something worth sharing happens in my day… I’ll share it.  Otherwise, I don’t need to do the “Well, it was good and I went to this meeting and this happened…” It drives me crazy! 

Shared experiences and routines give you more interesting things to talk about with one another, which is very connecting.

And routines…

Like when my husband Andy I go out to dinner, we like to go have a pre-dinner drink at a bar, if we have time.  That’s just a little routine we have.  It’s ours and we like it. On Sunday mornings we wake up, we put on some music, we have coffee, and we talk about our weeks ahead – what are you looking forward to?  What are you dreading?  How many nights this week will we both be home to have dinner together?  That shared ritual is connecting and helps us align with one another before a new week begins.

And savor the shared routines and shared meaning.  One way to do that: Express appreciation for it. 

“I love our Sunday morning coffee time.” 

“I love our pre-dinner drink ritual. Thanks for creating it with me.”

Tell me you’re not going to feel more connected to your partner after that.

In addition to hosting The Sean Show on B105.7, Sean Copeland is a therapist at Evolve Therapy in Greenwood, IN.

Couples In Happy Relationships Always Do This Together  was originally published on roneb1057.staging.go.ione.nyc