This Could Affair Proof Your Relationship

Couples in happy and healthy relationships always express appreciation for one another. 

I have couples I work with express 3 verbal appreciations a day.  This can be transformative in many ways…

The first of which is it can change the way you experience the relationship.  We are hard wired to scan our environment for threats and things that aren’t going well.  If you know that at the end of every day you have to share 3 verbal appreciations, what’s going to happen?  You’re going to start scanning the relationship and the environment for things to appreciate. 

Sharing them can also help affair proof your relationship.  A recent study of women who had committed adultery said their number 1 reason was that they didn’t feel appreciated by their partner.  This fixes that!

Keep this in mind too: we often ritualize things that are important to us, so make it a ritual.  Pick a time to share your appreciations each day. We do ours right before bed.  One, it gives us the entire day to come up with what to appreciate.  Secondly, we both get to go to bed with our “tails wagging” – for ways we were “good boys” that day.

Try it for 2 weeks and report back.

In addition to hosting The Sean Show on B105.7, Sean Copeland is a therapist at Evolve Therapy in Greenwood, IN.

This Could Affair Proof Your Relationship  was originally published on roneb1057.staging.go.ione.nyc